No matter how much we like to pretend it doesn't matter, our parents play a big role in the sorority we choose. My sorority sisters are at that stage in their life when they are having kids (cringe) and so many of them have cute sorority-themed onesies for their daughters. I like to say that I will not be one of those mothers (one day), but I really have no idea. I like to think that I will let my son or daughter choose the fraternity they would like to join rather than pushing my preference on them.
So tell me - did you choose your legacy sorority or another? If you chose another sorority rather than your legacy, what advice can you offer to those wanting to possibly pave their own way? If you joined your legacy sorority, are you satisfied with your choice?
Great topic! My mom, older sister and I are all in different organizations. My sister and I each had our mom's chapter at our schools, but it just wasn't a good fit for us. My mom was never pushy; we didn't even know she was Greek until my sister went through recruitment! I do think I would be a little sad if my daughter didn't want to join my organization one day, but more than that I definitely want her to be happy! And if she doesn't attend my alma mater, my organization's chapter at her school could be very different from the chapter I joined. Interested to read the other comments!!
ReplyDeleteMy mom and I (and my sister too but she came later) are all in the same organization. It's a great experience but my mom never was one to push her sorority on me, that's just where I fit best on my campus. Sharing the bonds of sisterhood with my mom and sister is something I wouldn't trade for the world.
ReplyDeleteIf you're a PNM going through recruitment with a grandmother/mom's chapter keep an open mind but don't accidentally brush the legacy group off because you're focused on wanting something different. Maybe that legacy org is right for you and maybe it's not but give every group an equal chance.
~Joanie
www.flonmymind.com
I'm a double legacy to my organization as both my mother and grandmother were in the same chapter at the same university. If aunts and cousins counted, I'd be legacy to every woman in my family (for at least three generations worth of ladies).
ReplyDeleteDespite practically having my sorority in my DNA, my mom never pushed me to join her organization. In fact, I very nearly chose a different sorority on Preference night. But I found my home where she did, and it's been a great bond for us to share.
It would be difficult to see my daughter choose another organization, but I would be just as excited for her. I'd be a proud mother of a Greek woman, and that would be enough for me!