COMMUNICATION

When we work with someone day in and day out there are bound to be times that we do not always see eye to eye. For example, the past couple of weeks I have been having problems with a co-worker taking my responsibilities for herself and running them. In all actuality, those are my responsibilities and I am doing my job. As soon as I have a meeting with my students and get them caught up on things that I need, she turns right around, calls them into a meeting, and tells them the same thing. Now I understand that my students' time is very precious. You all have so many things to do between school, work, sorority responsibilities, and everything else in between. However, my co-worker was not making as much use of their time as she could.

Finally, I had to sit down with her and let her know that a) our students have very limited time and many other responsibilities outside of us and b) that I did not need for her to go behind me to make sure I am doing my job or taking over my responsibilities for me. She was obviously upset, but I walked out of the meeting with my head held higher. 

The solution to this situation just required a little communication. Some times it is hard for us to say the important things face-to-face, but that is also the only way it is going to get across the way it should. During my active years as a sorority member I came to a head with many of my Sisters over different things, but most of the time neither of us brought up the situation face-to-face. We usually discussed the matter over text message (read: do NOT do this!) and it ended up much worse than it really should have been. By talking to someone face-to-face you are more likely to not put all of the blame on them. 

This week I encourage  you to get any issues that have been bogging you down with a Sister out. Take her out to coffee and preface the date by letting her know that you need to talk to her about something that has been weighing on you. Do not attack her, but just talk to her like she is your Sister. I promise, things will come out of the situation much better than if you were to text her. It just might add an extra spring in your step from having the weight lifted off of your shoulders.